*8Things: I Need Less Of

8things from Magpie Girl Over at  The DO LESS Revolution, we are getting ready to get rid of a bunch of stuff on our To-Do list. 

Sometimes, I think we take the idea of Doing Less too literally, restricting ourselves to reducing only our external tasks and chores.  But our internal tasks demand our time and energy as well. By internal tasks I mean the activities of our monkey mind – mental and emotional busyness. So here’s a little warm-up exercise for Friday’s DO LESS post. What *8Things do you need less of– from the internal or external list? Here’s mine, share yours! 

1. Worry. I worry about my children almost all the time, especially the oldest one. Mabel likes to tell me, “You have to know deep in your soul that your kids are going to be okay.” She’s right, she’s right, I know she’s right. Now to live like it…

2. Regrets. Since midlife has come, looming regret has been a major theme of mine. Tess of Anchors and Masts has this quote as her email tagline. It helps me a lot: “It’s only too late if you don’t start now.” -Barbara Sher

3. Second Guessing. Ohmylord, my Gremlins have me doing this a lot! Especially around food and exercise. If I walk a few miles my Gremlins say, “Maybe you should have gone swimming instead.” If I eat a sandwich I get, “A salad would have been better.” Urgh.

4. Violence on Television. It’s the “Summer of Crime” on local Danish TV, which means non-stop crime dramas. Now I love Dexter as much as the next gal, but I think I’ve finally hit my limit of crime images. My psyche’s starting to feel a little bruised.

5. Laundry. I’ve got to get my kids to stop “cleaning” their room by dumping all their clothes –even the clean ones–back into the hamper.

6. Clothing Crisis. It is ridiculous how much time I spend trying to figure out what to wear these days. Two cotton short-sleeve blouses, a pair of capri jeans, and some brown sandals would solve my problems. That’s my limited shopping list when I land in the States next month.

7. Self Criticism. Specifically, I need to do less beating-myself-up about my limited ability to read these days. My migraines flare worse at night, so my evening routine of reading a novel before bed has evaporated. Instead I listen to books from Audible.com when I walk, but the available literary quality is significantly lower than what I’m accustomed to. I feel my intellect atrophying! Making peace with this reality might quite down the self critic. But how?

8. Medication. The migraines, they are awful these days. I’m pain free maybe a week all-told out of the month. Without access to the alternative  practitioners that keep my pain at bay, the amount of meds I’ve had to take is creeping up. It makes me feel toxic, and stresses out my liver. Thankfully I’ll practically live in Dr. Woo Woo’s office this Summer and the meds will have a hiatus. (Phew!)

What do you need less of in your life? Clutter? Commitments? Caffeine? Complaints? Grab a button and play along or put your *8Things in the comments below.  And don’t forget to join The DO LESS Revolution, here at Magpie Girl on Fridays. Go recruit a friend! Thanks for being here!

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lisa (msla) May 28, 2009 at 4:38 pm

Brilliant post, Rachelle. Until I saw it in writing, I hadn’t identified the second guessing. That’s one of mine too.

Anna May 28, 2009 at 5:26 pm

my youngest is still at home and when she decides to clean her room she dumps all clothes clean or not down to wash!! glad its not just me :-)

Jo May 28, 2009 at 7:13 pm

Less migraines. Just the thought is bliss.

Becky May 29, 2009 at 5:04 am

#5 is one of mine too. my remedy is to get the kids helping with laundry so they have an incentive not to make more of it than necessary.

Kara aka Mother Henna May 29, 2009 at 9:05 am

So interesting to read your list! Was just at a poetry festival where Tony Curtis, poet from Dublin, mentioned that at some point in his life, he decided it was ridiculous to waste time trying to figure out what to wear all the time. He picked a simple list of clothing items, like you mention your list here, and that’s what he wears. He says, when you see him, he always looks the same. :) I loooooooooooove this idea. How good it would be to NOT have to “pack” when traveling and such… Okay, off to stew over my 8 less things! :) miracles, k-

Tess May 29, 2009 at 12:46 pm

Oh yes, the second-guessing for me too, definitively. Will those little voices just SHUT UP, already! And I’m glad my email tag helps, I love Barbara Sher’s work.

rowena May 29, 2009 at 4:11 pm

I really like this do less list. Now that I am about to take on a large challenge (where I paint 100 paintings in 100 days, yikes!) These are some of the things I need to have less of. They are really good. I’m thinking of adding less perfectionism and less fear to my list. Must think about them.

Rachelle Mee-Chapman May 30, 2009 at 8:52 pm

Oh! Less perfectionism has been a good one for me! I started the Fast and Dirty Portfolio project at Jen Lee’s, and my work took off.

http://jenlee.net/index.php/the-portfolio-project/

Letting go of perfectionism helped me produce more work, and the more you practice the more you perfect your craft, so the fast and dirty _is_ a little closer to perfection.

Natural Mom Loves Prada June 17, 2009 at 4:45 pm

This is such a fun, inspiring idea – can’t wait to do my first 8!!

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