So yesterday I was chatting with my friend Margretha. Margretha is from the Faroe Islands, but lives the ex-pat life with me here in Copenhagen. We both have husbands, kids, and not enough time for our creative pursuits. Recently I bought a real camera, a Nikkon D5000. Truly, it’s too much camera for me, and I am just beginning to figure out – say- the menu screen. I was feeling kind of overwhelmed by it when Margretha told me that she had hers for almost 2 years before she really got the hang of it. “I thought it was something you could just do,” she said, “but it takes practice.”
Ah, practice. The natural enemy of the moderately talented.
Perhaps you are someone like me, or Margretha, or my talented daughter Eden to whom many things come easily. Perhaps you are a math wiz, or a naturally gifted writer, or have a voice like an angel. You excel at these things in part because you have natural talent, and that talent gets you a long way. Plus, you love these things, so you practice – naturally and without really thinking about it. But then…then there are the other things. The stuff that doesn’t come so easily, like being organized, or playing the guitar, or quantum physics. When natural achievers hit these not-so-easy things they are often stunned. “What?! I can’t be good at this instantly, what gives?”
What gives is practice. Most things require it. It’s just, if a lot of things come easily to you, you might not have ever realized this. I’m pretty sure I was at least 30 before the concept of practice came across my desk. (She’s a little slow, that one.)
So my gifted little wunderkind, if you like it, or you want it, or you really need it in your life, you have to buckle down and put in the time.
What are *8Things You Need To Practice to Get Good At? Here’s a few that come to mind:
- Sex: You know what, you may be a whiz in bed now (buffs her finger nails on her shoulder) but once upon a time…let’s face it, you were a little lost. Even now, when a new lover comes along things can be a little bumpy. Thank goodness practice makes perfect, and I think we can all agree this is one of the best things to practice at! What are you waiting for? Get to it!
- Photography: As mentioned above taking a great photo takes time. Aperture? Light settings? Bokeh? Amazing shutterbugs like Vivienne, Silvia, and Abbi didn’t get there overnight and neither will you. But you can get better. Click away.
- Guitar: I may have a longing for the stage, but I’m not going to get anywhere further than my living room if I don’t practice. Even open mics require a modicum of skill and discipline. And those calluses on your fingers? Damn! They wear off fast if you don’t keep up the conversation with the strings. But little by little you’ll learn. Even two chords can make a song. Play.
- Bravery: Speaking of stages, risks, and new things…bravery itself takes practice. My kids are afraid a lot these days. They have to do new things often, in a strange culture and in a foreign tongue.Â Paul and I keep reminding them, “If you are never afraid, you can never be brave.” So practice. Try to squish the spider. Order one thing in a foreign language. Climb up two steps of the ladder. You can do it.
- Cooking: My housemate once watched me make soup and whispered, “Look at that. It’s like alchemy.” Actually, it’s just cooking. But it is in fact a learned skill. One which you may or may not want to acquire. (She decided not to – after all, there is Trader Joes.) If you practice cooking you will make over-cooked eggs, burnt cookies, and pancakes as heavy as lead. But eventually, you’ll get it right. (And if you want toÂ learn fromÂ my cooking, try Food HeroÂ for yum.)
- Writing: I always thought I was a pretty good writer. But when I look back from my early blogging days until now, I can certainly see that my work has improved. Why? Well, when we took our now 19yo year old into our home, after a few days of life together he said, “Wow. You really write a lot.” Yep. All the time. On screens, in notebooks, in the margins of those brochures they hand out at art museums (especially on those.) Practice. Practice. Practice.
- Yoga: There’s a reason why yoginis call it yoga practice – it takes a lot of it. The more you do it the deeper the meaning becomes. Yoga has loosened up my body, managed my pain, taught me what it means to be present, and kept me centered and preserved my soul. But it couldn’t have done any of that without practice. (My favorite way to practice right now is right here.)
- Making Friends: I never realized until recently how much making new friends is like dating. Phew! It’s a lot of work, and not an un-small amount of risk. Meeting new people and making connections is a skill, and one most people can acquire. In my experience it takes a couple of things:Â the willingness to take risks; the ability to “let it go” when an attempt doesn’t work out; and the stick-to-it-ivness to try again and again.
What are your *8Things You Need to Practice to Get Good At? Are they things you’ve already gotten good at, or things you are trying new now?Â Grab a button and play along, or make your quick list in the comments below. Thanks for being here!