I want toÂ runÂ down the hallsÂ of my high school.
I want to scream at the top of my lungs.
I just found out there’s no such thing as the real world.
It’s just a lie you have to rise above.
Â -J.Mayer, No Such Thing
One of the things we’ve been talking about in our Standing in Your Own Power series is the difference between external sources of authority (institutions, cultural messages, etc) and internal sources of authority (The Muse, intuition, etc.) External sources often come cloaked in the guise of “conventional wisdom.”Â There are of course, good examples of conventional wisdom. “Look both ways before crossing the street”Â comes immediately to mind. But there are plenty of dubious CW soundbites as well.
As Jen Lemen once point out, “The Man” has really done a job on me. There are a number of thing in my head that I accept as truth without applying a critical eye. So, like Penny did with Fear, I’d like to say f*ck off to these *8 bits of conventional wisdom.
*8Things: F*ck Conventional Wisdom
1.Â I sound like my mother. Why does this have to be a bad thing? Motherhood is an honorable profession.
2. You should try toÂ stay the size you were in high school. Seriously? This so does NOT honor our bodies.
3. It’s not a ‘real’ book unless it’s printed by a ‘real’ publisher. Um, who says?
4. Your children need to go to church. They need a religious foundation. Don’t get me started.
5. You need good grades. This is important for like, 5 minutes of your life. Average grades work fine.
6. You have to be financially secure. Really, the need for financial security and how you define it varies widely based on personality.
7. That’s not how it’s done. Anything remotely like this sets off big warning bells
WhatÂ *8Things do you need to stop listening to? What does “everybody” know is true, but doesn’t work for you? Tell that stuff to take a hike in your *8Things: F*ck Conventional Wisdom list.Â Â Grab a buttonÂ and play along! Put your list in the comments; orÂ post it on yourÂ blog andÂ give us the permalinkÂ in the Mr. Linky below. (We’ll comeÂ come say hi! ) Thanks for being here!