30Stories: How do I make space to pursue my dreams?

Oh, this is a really common questions amongst the Magpies. I am so glad Sara Dryer of Fearlessly Phobic asked it!

Q: How do you chase your dreams while still having to do the have-to’s without burning out?

The language of your question is revealing in and of itself. Did you notice your verb? Chase. It’s quite driven isn’t it? Not just compelled but also propelled.

Many of us feel that our life is like this – pushed around by forces that are not within our control. It can be maddening to try to figure out how to make space for one’s creative dreams, while still doing the work, chores, and child-rearing of everyday life.  Here are some tips and techniques I’ve found helpful.

  • Adjust to right-fit expectations. Notice I didn’t say “lower” your expectations. This is not about setting your sights low, it’s about healthy function. Be realistic about the amount of time and space you have for your dreams, and trust that this is enough. (And it will be.)
  • Work in small snippets. Sometimes we don’t work on our dream because we want a big chunk of time in which we can do it all at once. Even ten-minute increments will add up to a finished project eventually. Do what you can when you can.
  • Do Less.One of the issues I see in my coaching practice is that people are not willing to do less to make space for their dreams. Your kids might not be able to be in two sports. You might not be able to be in your book any more. Dinners might have to get a lot simpler. Society tells us a lot of “shoulds,” but really very few of them are essential. You can to Do Less to Live More.
  • Rest. You cannot pursue your dreams when you are drop-dead tired. Get sleep. Practice Sabbath. Take a day off. You have to fill-up to create something new. Even a little rest can shore you up for a new burst of creativity.
  • Make a Pact. When you are spinning a dream, having a withmate can be a big help. Together, you can help each other focus, set right-fit goals, and break each other out of stuck points. What might a creative partnership look like for you?

What about you? What are your tips and techniques for getting your chore list done and pursuing your dreams? We’d love to hear what works for you, because “there ain’t nowhere to go but together.”

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Stories : 30Days – The Collection

Day 1:  What is the intersect between work and play and how can I find it? 
Day 2:  How has your spirituality shaped your sexuality?
Day 3: IRL and Online Friendships: same? different? balanced.
Day 4: How can I connect with my neighborhood?
Day 5: What do I do if my partner and I have different faiths?
Day 6: What are you doing to make a difference in this world?
Day 7: What is your highest high and what can you learn from it?
Day 8: What role has massage played in your life?
Day 9: How can I make administrative tasks a creative/spiritual practice?
Day 10: What has it meant to you to have your birthday so near Halloween?
Day 11: How can I manage resistance around my art?
Day 12: I want to establish some kind of spiritual practice. Where do I start?
Day 13: What is your primary spiritual practice?
Day 14: Do you prefer living in Europe or in the U.S.?
Day 15: How does nature affect your spirituality, and why do you say you have a soft spot for Pagans?
Day 16: As your spirituality expands, does God stay personal?

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