28 Days: Believe in Your Fellow Humans


How to Believe in Your Fellow Humans

This morning I turned on the news to find out that an unstable man stormed a school bus, shot and killed the driver, then grabbed a 5 year old boy and dragged him into a bunker.

It’s enough to make you want to give up on human beings.
Most of them any way…all of them except your family, your BFF, and that really nice cashier as the grocery store.

It is easy to isolate yourself in the face of fear. To withdrawl from the pain of connection. To circle the wagons and hunker down.

It’s easy to do and

it’s the worst possible thing we can do.

When times are dangerous. When hurt looms large. When the task at hand seems divisive and impossible, this is the time to believe in your fellow humans.

I read a story in the news today. A town in England is trying to grow all it’s fruit-and-veg in the sideyards and way-places of their neighborhood. It started when two townswomen — Mary Clear and Pam Warhurst — started fretting about the state of the world. They reasoned if they couldn’t change the big picture, they might as well start locally. So they got a group of people together in a cafe.

“Wars come about by men having drinks in bars, good things come about when women drink coffee together,’ says Mary.

(You know you want to share that!)

Out of that coffee meeting the group discovered the commaraderie and fortitude neccessary to begin a transformational project — local action, meeting local need. Now the town is dotted with public gardens, the harvests free for the taking.

When asked if she was afraid people would take all the veggies seflishly co founder Mary Clare said,

“We trust people. We truly believe — we are witness to it — that people are decent.”

The neighbors turned from dispair and hopelessness regarding the state of the world, and went and did something about it. They didn’t disparage the small start or the first try. The recognized that Small is Powerful. As Mary said,

‘This is a revolution, but we are gentle revolutionaries. Everything we do is underpinned by kindness.”

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What about you Magpie? Are you ready to be a gentle revolutionary? Can take some small, local action? Will you hold the intent that everything you do will be “underpinned by kindness.”

I think you are. I know you can. I hope you will.

(Amen? Amen.)


Note: I don’t typically “pitch my wares” in these memorial posts. But because I want to offer support during this process, I’d like to mention that we are practicing compassion and learning how to build a life that is underpinned by kindness this February in Flock. Click here if you’d like some withmates for this important journey.


Today healing act is in memory of Chase Kowalski, 7. What Chase really wanted for Christmas was two front teeth. At 6, he completed his first triathlon, but that was just one of his pursuits. He loved baseball. He was in the Cub Scouts. He looked forward to the kids’ workshop at the local Home Depot. “We are thankful to the Lord for giving us seven years with our beautiful loving son. It is with heavy hearts that we return him,” the family said in an obituary. *source info

More from 28 Days:

 Response to Connecticut: A Prayer. A Plea.
An Ongoing Response
Tools for Tragedy
28 Days Main Page (info/graphics)
Day 1: The Healing Power of Whimsy (600 Monsters)
Day 2: Inhale Compassion, Exhale Love
Day 3: The Sandy Hook Promise (video)
Day 4: Say Thanks
Day 5: Know Better (podcast on race and gun violence) 

Laurie February 4, 2013 at 10:02 am

My 24 yr old son recently rode along on a 5 hour drive from Tempe AZ to San Diego CA with a man he “met” through Craigslist Ride Share. I must admit, as his (worried) mom, my heart hitched when he started telling me about his adventure…but by the end of our conversation, I was in tears. He said it was one of the best experiences of his life. He and this “stranger” had much in common and enjoyed one anothers company- exchanging stories, thoughts and ideas and listening to interesting & informative “books on CD” as the miles passed by to their shared destination. He said that the man (driver) had never done this before, but because he traveled a lot for his work, he thought he’d offer a seat/ride to another who needed to get to the same place as him, he just wanted to connect with other people and that he “believes that people are generally good, but the media only wants to spread the bad news and keep us in fear about our fellow man.” I am so happy for my son to have had this experience and grateful to that man for being an important teacher and spreader of the faith and love so needed in this world.
What a precious light front toothless Chase shined on his family’s world for a too short time. ~xo~

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