Listen friends, what I want to tell you is this…
You do not need to self-improve.
You do not need to struggle.
You do not need to radically reshape anything.
I don’t know where weÂ all got this idea that we are endlessly broken.
Perhaps it is from those pinspiration boards, tellingÂ you how to exercise that two inch space of sinew and muscle, there under your armpit.
Or maybe it was at school when they started threatening you with your permanent record.
Then again, you could have picked it up at church where theyÂ said you were sinful at birth.
But here’s theÂ truth,
You are not inherently flawed.
You are a human in the process of growing.
We don’t judge a sapling for not being a 100 year old redwood.Â We don’t begrudge the new-sprungÂ ivy for not yet covering the wall. We don’t critique theÂ crocus for not yet being in bloom.
No. We celebrateÂ growing things – feeding them sunlight and fresh air.Â Watering them without drowning. Giving them the right kind of fuel.
So today, my magpie, instead of writing a to-do list that is impossible to accomplish
Instead of pledging to never, EVER ever eat _____ again.
Rather than dreaming BIG…
Yes, instead of doing things that hurt and berate you, could you please do this:
Be kind to you baby soul.
- Could you please treat your body asÂ you would a child? (Feed it nicely. Give it fresh air. Let it play. Let it rest.)
- Â Could you stopÂ trying to save the world, and just be nice to the cashier instead?
- Â Could you notice how gleeful you are about thatÂ daffodil bulb, bursting out of the two-inch strip of grass between the curb and the sidewalk, and look at yourself in the mirror the same way?
(Because you are just as wonder-full.)
Please, my magpie. StopÂ beating yourselfÂ up for not being “there” yet. (Wherever “There” is.)
Please step offÂ the endless hamster wheel of self-help and self-improvment.
Please stop worrying that you will fallÂ for Complacency. (I just don’t think Complacency is your type.)
You are wise. You are intentional. You are reflective. You are caring.
So stop trying so hard.
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