Stop Trying So Hard

Listen friends, what I want to tell you is this…

You do not need to self-improve.

You do not need to struggle.

You do not need to radically reshape anything.

I don’t know where we all got this idea that we are endlessly broken.

Perhaps it is from those pinspiration boards, telling you how to exercise that two inch space of sinew and muscle, there under your armpit.

Or maybe it was at school when they started threatening you with your permanent record.

Then again, you could have picked it up at church where they said you were sinful at birth.

But here’s the truth,

You are not inherently flawed.
You are a human in the process of growing.

(Click to tweet the good word.)

We don’t judge a sapling for not being a 100 year old redwood. We don’t begrudge the new-sprung ivy for not yet covering the wall. We don’t critique the crocus for not yet being in bloom.

No. We celebrate growing things – feeding them sunlight and fresh air. Watering them without drowning. Giving them the right kind of fuel.

So today, my magpie, instead of writing a to-do list that is impossible to accomplish
Instead of pledging to never, EVER ever eat _____ again.
Rather than dreaming BIG…

Yes, instead of doing things that hurt and berate you, could you please do this:

Be kind to you baby soul.

(More good news to share around.)

  • Could you please treat your body as you would a child? (Feed it nicely. Give it fresh air. Let it play. Let it rest.)
  •  Could you stop trying to save the world, and just be nice to the cashier instead?
  •  Could you notice how gleeful you are about that daffodil bulb, bursting out of the two-inch strip of grass between the curb and the sidewalk, and look at yourself in the mirror the same way?
    (Because you are just as wonder-full.)

Please, my magpie. Stop beating yourself up for not being “there” yet. (Wherever “There” is.)

Please step off the endless hamster wheel of self-help and self-improvment.

Please stop worrying that you will fall for Complacency. (I just don’t think Complacency is your type.)

You are wise. You are intentional. You are reflective. You are caring.

So stop trying so hard.

Grow easy.

(Amen? Amen.)

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Sarah February 26, 2013 at 4:03 pm

I love this so much. Such beautiful, true words. Thank you.

Rachelle February 26, 2013 at 4:55 pm

You’re welcome, Sarah!

nikkiana February 26, 2013 at 7:00 pm

Thank you, Rachelle!

Marina February 27, 2013 at 12:25 am

Oh! This is perfect :)

NTE February 27, 2013 at 9:25 am

Thank you: need to remember to take it easy, but still move forward. Often feel stalled, but this seems so hopefully.

LaLa February 27, 2013 at 11:32 am


chel March 1, 2013 at 6:08 pm

This is wonderful- thank you so much!

Laurie March 4, 2013 at 12:21 pm

“Grow easy”…ahhhh, so lovely, Rachelle! I think that will be my new soul mantra! Thank you for this reminder!

Beth March 6, 2013 at 9:09 pm

This: “Could you notice how gleeful you are about that daffodil bulb…and look at yourself in the mirror the same way?” — yes, this. Thank you!

Glad to stumble upon your site. :)

Rachelle March 12, 2013 at 5:19 pm

Thank you friends. I’m glad we could be together on this!

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