Finding Enoughness

You know that thing, where you don’t feel like you got enough done? Or maybe you yourself, at your core don’t feel like you are enough.

You are not alone in that, my magpie friend. Not at all. In fact, it comes up all the time in my soulcare community, Flock. So much so, that we are dedicating the next month to getting some traction around this whole enoughness thing. Not just mental shifts, but practical tips, tricks, and behavior hacks that will really help you stop that broken record of “not enough.”

I hope you’ll click here to join us in Flock as we do this important work together. In the meantime, here’s Vintage Magpie post and podcast with a little bit of inspiration for you.

You really are enough, and more over, you can get to a place where you feel that truth in your every, every day.


Good. Enough.

Last week in the car my 14 year old daughter, Eden, turned to me and said:

“Mom, you used to raise money for a food bank. Then you ran a shelter for homeless teens. Then you were a pastor. After that you raised us, and took in the boy down the street when he needed fostering. When G was in the NICU for so long, you took care of his family. And you look out for your people on-line when they are having a hard time. You are always being a caregiver. It’s just not in Africa. So why do you always think you should be doing more?”

Eden is right. I am a compassionate caregiver. Paid and unpaid. Job title or not. My life is compassion. My life is service.

Yet I constantly under value the way I live.

I refer to my work as “my expensive hobby.”
I call my life “cushy.”
I self-identify as a privileged middle-aged upper-middle-class white lady.
(And I am. But I’m aware of my privilege, and I use it as well as I know how in service to others.)

So why do I so often fall into the trap of thinking it’s not enough?

Because I believe the lie.

The lie that if it’s not intense it doesn’t count.
The lie that a caregiver doesn’t also deserve (and need!) care and comfort herself.
The lie that if I’m not changing the world, I’m not doing anything worthwhile.

I suspect it’s not just me. I suspect that you also get stuck in the same erroneous thought whirlpool. And those lies spin you round and round, moving you from reflection to rumination, sapping your strength, and making you wonder if you are actually making progress swimming up, or if you are slowly sinking down?

You deserve to know the truth. In fact, it’s the only way to really live. So here it goes, my magpie. Here’s the gods’ honest truth

You are living intentionally.
You are attentive to the world around you.
You are compassionate.

You are not “good enough.” You are good.
(And that is enough.)

Click to spread the good word.

This isn’t going to be true someday.
It’s not waiting for when you are finally done running on the endless self-help hamster wheel.
It’s not a merit badge you will get when you finally feel grown up.

These are truths about your personhood right now.

Does that mean we aren’t ever supposed to change, you and I? Does it mean that we don’t have lessons to learn? Am I implying we never make mistake, snap at our partners, eat too many donuts?

No, not at all.

You are not broken. Neither are you are stagnant. Nor are you done.

You are simply, growing.

Are you enough right now? Can you be enough tomorrow? Will you grow in your enough-ness for as long as you surely shall live?

I think you are.
I know you can.
I hope you will.

(And I’ll be doing it there with you.)

Amen? Amen.

Much Warmth,

Rachelle Mee-Chapman
*your magpie girl

Want help connecting with enoughness?

Join us this September in Flock as we share tips, tricks, and behavior-hacks for Finding Enoughness. Flock memberships can start/stop at any time, just click here to join us.


Jen Bailey September 5, 2014 at 3:53 am

I can’t thank you enough for this post. It is exactly what I needed today. I struggle continuously with this. I set impossible expectations and when I fall short, I blame and punish myself. And I am tired. A friend said to me once: “We need to go to that place inside our heart that never lies.” That place is calling to me now, asking me to please let go. That I am good. And that is enough.

Thanks so much!

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